con·form
kənˈfôrm
verb
- comply with rules, standards, or laws."the kitchen does not conform to hygiene regulations"
Thursday, May 18, 2017
Google defines the word conform in the statement that to conform is to "comply with the rules, standards, and laws." It also defines it as to "(of a person) behave according to socially acceptable conventions or standards." It is also defined as "be similar in form or type; agree." Most people see conforming as giving up who they truly are to become mundane. This is not true, as people conform to fit with a group of friends or family. It is a vicious cycle of change and continuity. However there is a sad truth about society today, and that is everyone is afraid of difference.
When I was a young child, in the 1st grade, I had trouble making friends because I wanted to be myself. But I managed to make 1 good friend. Everything was alright and fun, but at the end of the year, he moved away. It wasn't until the 3rd grade where I would meet my best friend at the time. We were always together and hanging out and laughing. We were inseparable. Unfortunately, it was the way I was that made that friendship so difficult, and in the end, I pushed away my best friend. At the end of the 5th grade he moved away, leaving me in a maze of anger and hopelessness. I was lost, and I didn't want to make friends because I believed that I had to be myself.
To this day, my friends are still in contact with him, but I still that if I talk to him that I would open a wound of the past.
In the 6th grade I was lost, I didn't trust people, and tried to stay away from other people. At one point in everyone's lives we have all been told that we are special. We are. But society sees this as a bad thing. It wasn't until the 7th grade where I met my friend that taught me about the whole world. It didn't take long for me to realize that society holds a dark truth. That dark truth is that people are afraid of the unknown. If someone likes something to much, they are considered as obsessive or weird. Asking the world to change is impossible, and unrealistic, but asking for people to change is an achievable goal.
When learning that the world wants conformity, I realized that not everything was a happy get together of joy and peace, like the Pepsi commercial with Kendall Jenner. People do not like different, and when I learned that, I had to rethink everything I have ever set as the social norm for myself. I learned that conformity is not a bad thing, and that conforming is up to the person. I chose to conform into a social person, and think about my words and actions, and what other people think. Parents often tell their kids to be themselves and to not care what others think, but what other people thinks is extremely important.
We see change all around the world, and I have seen so much change with my own life. Conforming has been how I made so many different friends recently, people give it a bad reputation, because it removes individuality. This isn't true. A final thought that has always remained in my head was "Sometimes the best way to stand out, is to fit in".
When I was a young child, in the 1st grade, I had trouble making friends because I wanted to be myself. But I managed to make 1 good friend. Everything was alright and fun, but at the end of the year, he moved away. It wasn't until the 3rd grade where I would meet my best friend at the time. We were always together and hanging out and laughing. We were inseparable. Unfortunately, it was the way I was that made that friendship so difficult, and in the end, I pushed away my best friend. At the end of the 5th grade he moved away, leaving me in a maze of anger and hopelessness. I was lost, and I didn't want to make friends because I believed that I had to be myself.
To this day, my friends are still in contact with him, but I still that if I talk to him that I would open a wound of the past.
In the 6th grade I was lost, I didn't trust people, and tried to stay away from other people. At one point in everyone's lives we have all been told that we are special. We are. But society sees this as a bad thing. It wasn't until the 7th grade where I met my friend that taught me about the whole world. It didn't take long for me to realize that society holds a dark truth. That dark truth is that people are afraid of the unknown. If someone likes something to much, they are considered as obsessive or weird. Asking the world to change is impossible, and unrealistic, but asking for people to change is an achievable goal.
When learning that the world wants conformity, I realized that not everything was a happy get together of joy and peace, like the Pepsi commercial with Kendall Jenner. People do not like different, and when I learned that, I had to rethink everything I have ever set as the social norm for myself. I learned that conformity is not a bad thing, and that conforming is up to the person. I chose to conform into a social person, and think about my words and actions, and what other people think. Parents often tell their kids to be themselves and to not care what others think, but what other people thinks is extremely important.
We see change all around the world, and I have seen so much change with my own life. Conforming has been how I made so many different friends recently, people give it a bad reputation, because it removes individuality. This isn't true. A final thought that has always remained in my head was "Sometimes the best way to stand out, is to fit in".
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